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作者: ekphrasis    时间: 2014-8-8 00:32     标题: 高雅爱情的规则

高雅爱情的规则
 
安德烈亚斯·卡佩拉努斯(Andreas Capellanus)12世纪
翻译:Colin CI

爱是某种与生俱来的苦楚,源自对异性之美的观照和过度的思慕,它使每个人渴望他人的拥抱超过了一切,通过共同的欲望在他人的怀抱中实现爱的一切箴规。
 
规则
 
1、  婚姻不是不爱的真正借口。
2、  不嫉妒的人不能爱。
3、  没人会受双重爱情的约束。
4、  尽人皆知,爱总是或增或减。
5、  爱者违背被爱者的意志所行的事寡淡无味。
6、  男儿在达到成熟年龄之前不会爱。
7、  如果一个爱人死了,活着的爱人必须为他守寡两年。
8、  没有最好的理由,不能剥夺任何人的爱。
9、   除非受到爱的劝说的推动,否则无人能爱。
10、 在贪婪的家中爱总是一个陌生人。
11、爱一个你羞于与她结婚的女人是不适当的。
12、 真正的爱人并不渴望在爱中拥抱任何人,而仅仅是拥抱他所爱的人。
13、  公开后的爱情鲜能持久。
14、   爱之获得的轻易使它丧失价值;获得的艰难使它受珍视。
15、    每个爱人在看到他所爱的人的时候,一般会脸色变苍白。
16、    爱人突然看到他所爱的人时,他的心就跳得厉害。
17、    新的爱情会赶走旧的爱情。
18、    唯有优良的性格才能使男人配得上爱。
19、    如果爱减少了,它会很快地消失,而且鲜会再生。
20、    恋爱中的男人总是忧心忡忡。
21、    真正的嫉妒总是增加爱的感觉。
22、    一个人怀疑他的爱人时,嫉妒,因而还有爱,也会随之增长。
23、    被爱的思想所苦的人无心进食或入睡。
24、    爱人的每一个行为都以想念他所爱的人结束。
25、    真正的爱人认为只有那些会取悦他所爱的人的东西才是好的。
26、    爱不能阻止任何东西去爱。
27、     爱人对他所爱的人的安慰从来不会觉得过多。
28、     一点风吹草动就会使爱人怀疑他所爱的人。
29、     被太多的激情所苦的人通常不会爱。
30、     真正的爱人持续地 、毫无间断地思念他所爱的人。
31、     没有什么能禁止一个女人被两个男人所爱,或一个男人被两个女人所爱。




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作者: ironland    时间: 2014-8-8 00:37

他真是个神父?
作者: ekphrasis    时间: 2014-8-8 00:46

想想阿伯拉尔和爱洛伊丝(Abelard and Heloise),还有邓恩(John Donne)的艳情诗和神学诗,就能理解这种节制的爱了:)
作者: 吹笛在湖北    时间: 2014-8-8 01:15

4、  尽人皆知,爱总是或增或减。

——这条好,所以爱来了不是时候的时候,忍一忍,过一会就过去了,天下太平。
作者: 水笺    时间: 2014-8-8 18:36

爱,爱这么难过,让爱去死吧。
作者: ekphrasis    时间: 2014-8-9 23:59

本帖最后由 ekphrasis 于 2014-8-10 00:09 编辑
他真是个神父?
ironland 发表于 2014-8-8 00:37
不知。名字字面确有“牧师”之意。
略查,关于他的身世鲜见于记载,一说他是路易七世的长女Marie of France, Countess of Champagne (1145 – March 11, 1198) 的courtier(侍臣),并,Andreas Capellanus是受宫廷之请写下这部De Amore的。以为作“典雅之爱”好于“高雅之爱”或“宫廷之爱”,“骑士之爱”或更直接。
作者: ekphrasis    时间: 2014-8-10 00:06

见英文页面,顺贴来与所转主贴相关内容,共赏——
Andreas Capellanus (late 12th cent.)
De Amore (1184-86)
A Treatise on Courtly Love (Excerpts)
[The work is divided into three books; the first begins in the manner of an academic lecture, with attention to definitions and etymology.]
What is Love?
Love is an inborn suffering proceeding from the sight and immoderate thought upon the beauty of the other sex, for which cause above all other things one wishes to embrace the other and, by common assent, in this embrace to fulfill the commandments of love. . . .

[Book II concludes with a set of rules for lovers (an expansion of a set of rules given earlier; these, Andreas says, were brought from King Arthur's court by a Breton Knight. (The story of how he obtained the rules is a brief romance.)

The Rules of Love
1. Marriage is no excuse for not loving.
2. He who is not jealous can not love.
. No one can be bound by two loves.
4. Love is always growing or diminishing.
5. It is not good for one lover to take anything against the will of the other.
6. A male cannot love until he has fully reached puberty.
7. Two years of mourning for a dead lover are prescribed for surviving lovers.
8. No one should be deprived of love without a valid reason.
9. No one can love who is not driven to do so by the power of love.
10. Love always departs from the dwelling place of avarice.
11. It is not proper to love one whom one would be ashamed to marry.
12. The true lover never desires the embraces of any save his lover.
13. Love rarely lasts when it is revealed.
14. An easy attainment makes love contemptible; a difficult one
makes it more dear.
15. Every lover turns pale in the presence of his beloved.
16. When a lover suddenly has sight of his beloved, his heart beats wildly.
17. A new love expells an old one.
18. Moral integrity alone makes one worthy of love.
19. If love diminishes, it quickly leaves and rarely revives.
20. A lover is always fearful.
21. True jealousy always increases the effects of love.
22. If a lover suspects another, jealousy and the efects of love increase.
23. He who is vexed by the thoughts of love eats little and seldom sleeps.
24. Every action of a lover ends in the thought of his beloved.
25. The true lover believes only that which he thinks will please his beloved.
26. Love can deny nothing to love.
27. A lover can never have enough of the embraces of his beloved.
28. The slightest suspicion incites the lover to suspect the worse of his beloved.
29. He who suffers from an excess of passion is not suited to love.
30. The true lover is continuously obsessed with the image of his beloved.
31. Nothing prevents a woman from being loved by two men, or a man
from being loved by two women.


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